Author: Shayna Rosenberg

Being a Positive influence on Our Teenage Children’s Growth: Balancing Parental Authority with Healthy Autonomy

Last Motzei Shabbos, close to 100 attendees joined the ATT for their 38th Annual Rabbi Isaac Mayefsky Memorial Lecture featuring the captivating speaker and author, Rabbi Moshe Revah, Rosh HaYeshiva at Bais HaMidrash LaTorah/HTC, Rav of Ohel Tefillah. His presentation, “Being a Positive influence on Our Teenage Children’s Growth: Balancing Parental Authority with Healthy Autonomy”, focused on strategies for effective parenting.

First, Rabbi Revah noted that to understand what strategies would be helpful, one needs to understand the dynamics of being a teenager. He described the stages of childhood. A baby starts as part of the mother, is born into a child-oriented world, and then enters a parent-oriented relationship. At the age of 12/13, the next process occurs – one of נערות (an awakening), i.e. adolescence. This stage lasts for about 7-8 years and during this time the teen forges his/her own path, a path of passion, dreams, energy, etc.  Unfortunately, these traits are accompanied by a lack of wisdom, maturity, experience, and hormonal transitions. It is the parents’ job to channel this energy into creating an amazing independent person.

Why is this information important? Because it teaches parents what to expect from their teens. If parents know what to expect, they will react differently and relate in a more productive way.

His suggestions to help parents and teachers raise independent teens and keep them focused on Torah values included:

1. Listen to your teenager – their hopes and their fears. If you give them the opportunity to share, they will share. Spend time with them, at least 30 minutes per week.

2. Treat them with respect. This shows a child that the parent values him/her while the dynamic is changing as they start to exert their independence.

3. Don’t expect the teen to always be reasonable. Nevertheless, express your proper values and voice of reason. These lessons are being heard and will eventually shape who your teen becomes. Do the best you can. and provide a safety net of love even if your words do not appear to be heard.

4. Your job is to motivate, not control. Be a macro manager, as opposed to a micromanager. Allow freedom of growth and making mistakes. This will breed competence, responsibility, loyalty, and trust.

5. Allow and encourage individuality – educate your child on “his/her” path – not yours. חנוך לנער על פי דרכו, not yours. Don’t take credit for your child’s success.

6. Let your teen be part of the rule-making. Allow your teen to have choices in their part of the family dynamic.

7. Learn how to argue properly – keep the tone respectful, praise the positive, and do not engage with anger. Stop the conversation if it is out of control. Enforce a rule pleasantly – “I expect more from you,” “I understand you want this,” “I appreciate how you explained your points,” “This is the bottom line…” If it’s something the child will learn on their own from natural consequences, don’t give advice about the issue. Remember, no matter what you do, you can’t guarantee the results. Expect failures – this is natural in the growth process for all of us. You can always work on repairing relationships.

8. If a teen wants money/material possessions, discuss with him/her what the responsible needs of a teen are. You can divide the expenses with a baseline provided by parents, an allowance to teach budgeting, and the knowledge that this is a shared issue.

9. Explain the nuances of smoking, alcohol, marijuana, etc. Don’t make these things available but be aware of peer pressure. Treat your child like an adult and give him/her initial trust to make the right choices/decisions.

10. Recognize the opportunity to become better in middos yourself, especially in how you react.

11. Daven, daven, daven!

Rabbi Revah emphasized that raising children, especially a teenager, is one of the hardest and most rewarding things we can do.  The goal is to raise our children to be another link in the chain of Hashem’s mesorah – tradition. They are independent beings, not clones of ourselves.

This lecture is part of the ATT’s expanded program designed to address the challenges of creative teaching and rewarding parenting.  Over the years, it has become an excellent resource for parents and teachers of children of all ages.

2024-2025 Pogrund Family Essay And Judaic Artwork Contests

The ATT proudly announces this year’s Pogrund Family Essay and Judaic Artwork Contests for students in grades 3-12 of its affiliated schools. Funded by the generosity of the Pogrund Family, the contests provide students the opportunity to demonstrate their creativity, ability to research Jewish topics, and to express themselves through writing/art.

Click here for Essay Contest Rules.
Click here for Judaic Artwork Contest Rules.

Deadline for essay/art submission is Wednesday, January 15, 2025.  

2024 Rabbi Isaac Mayefsky Memorial Parenting Lecture

Raising children in today’s world! Looking for guidance? Attend the ATT’s 38th Annual Rabbi Isaac Mayefsky Memorial Parenting Lecture on Motzei Shabbos, December 7, 2024, 8:00 pm at ATT, ICJA Entrance, 8233 Central Park Ave, Skokie featuring Rabbi Moshe Revah, Rosh HaYeshiva at HTC, Rav at Ohel Tefillah, speaker, and author. He will explore the topic Being a Positive Influence on our Teenage Children’s Growth: Balancing Parental Authority with Healthy Autonomy.Admission: Free.

2023-2024 Pogrund Family Essay And Judaic Artwork Winners

2023-2024 Pogrund Family Judaic Artwork Winners

Bailey Berkman – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Chani Cruz – 3rd Grade – AK
Gitty Francis – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Menachem Mendel Gershon – 3rd Grade – CLHDS
DB Herbach – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Shira Lieberman – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Raizy Lifsics – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Bracha Leah Olevitch – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Raizy Rosenberg – 3rd Grade – JDBY
Tehila Roth – 3rd Grade – ACHDS
Toba Devorah Albin – 4th Grade – JDBY
Sammy Benson – 4th Grade – AK
Dovid Galster – 4th Grade – YOB
Refoel Gottesman – 4th Grade – YTT
Noa Scharman – 4th Grade – JDBY
Dina Chinn – 5th Grade – JDBY
Nina Cohen – 5th Grade – ACHDS
Elichai Engelson – 5th Grade – ACHDS
Dovid Kalman Gershon – 5th Grade – CLHDS
Yechezkel Boaz Gottesman – 5th Grade – YTT
Moshe Levitt – 5th Grade – ACHDS
Rachel Mandelbaum – 5th Grade – JDBY
Rachelli Mandelbaum – 5th Grade – JDBY
Sam Radutny – 5th Grade – AK
Baruch Rosenberg – 5th Grade – YOB
Felix Singer – 5th Grade – AK
Blumie Stern – 5th Grade – CLHDS
Abie Strulowitz – 5th Grade – YTT
Tovi Finkel – 6th Grade – ACHDS
Chaim Galster – 6th Grade – YOB
Stuart Goodman – 6th Grade – AK
Yosef Shalom Riesel – 6th Grade – YOB
Huvie Saks – 6th Grade – JDBY
Perel Twerski – 6th Grade – JDBY
Yitzchok Zev Atlas – 7th Grade – YTT
Rachelli Moskowitz – 7th Grade – JDBY
Ruchele Galster – 8th Grade – JDBY
Racheli Herzfeld – 8th Grade – JDBY
Sarala Strulowitz – 8th Grade – JDBY
Talia Rubin – 9th Grade – HSBY
Rivka Mandelbaum – 10th Grade – BYHSC

2023-2024 Pogrund Family Essay Winners

Tzipora Rubel 3rd Grade – JDBY
Ariella Gavant – 4th Grade – HT
Sara Kahn – 4th Grade – HT
Elisheva Millen – 4th Grade – JDBY
Tzipora Rokach – 4th Grade – JDBY
Yehudis Varnai – 4th Grade – CLHDS
Chani Atlas – 5th Grade – JDBY
Devora Pam – 5th Grade – JDBY
Aaron Darlow – 6th Grade – HT
Aderet Engel – 6th Grade – HT
Nedivah Finegold – 6th Grade – HT
Eli Fox – 6th Grade – HT
Batsheva Fuerst – 6th Grade – JDBY
Mayer Goldberg – 6th Grade – ACHDS
Miriam Chaya Lieberman – 6th Grade – JDBY
Ahuva Bracha Perkel – 6th Grade – ACHDS
Yaffa Benjamin – 7th Grade – HT
Ayla Needle – 7th Grade – HT
Miriam Atlas – 8th Grade – JDBY
Eli Comrov – 8th Grade – HT
Binyamin Friedman – 8th Grade – HT
Elior Ginsberg – 8th Grade – HT
Avigail Goldberg – 8th Grade – ACHDS
Sophie Levin – 8th Grade – HT
Michal Levy – 8th Grade – HT
Jason Nankin – 8th Grade – HT
Jordan Rich – 8th Grade – HT
Rachel Leah Rokach – 8th Grade – JDBY
Ari Shyovitz – 8th Grade – HT
Menachem Steinberg – 8th Grade – HT
Yocheved Ehrlich – 9th Grade – BYHSC
Liba Greenspan – 9th Grade – BYHSC
Shayna Kolsky – 9th Grade – HSBY
Yakira Wittlin – 9th Grade – ICJA
Penina Benjamin – 10th Grade – ICJA
Rivka Miriam Mishkin – 10th Grade – HSBY
Shira Finkel – 11th Grade – HSBY
Avigail Joel – 11th Grade – BYHSC
Noa Gavant – 12th Grade – ICJA

2023 Rabbi Isaac Mayefsky Memorial Parenting Lecture

Raising children in today’s world! Looking for guidance? Attend the ATT’s 37th Annual Rabbi Isaac Mayefsky Memorial Parenting Lecture on Motzei Shabbos, December 2, 2023, 8:00 pm at the ATT, ICJA Entrance, 8233 Central Park Avenue, Skokie featuring Rabbi Daniel Glatstein, a well-known speaker, author, researcher, and popular teacher with a global following. He will explore the topic Keeping Our Children Close in a Chaotic  World.
Admission is free.
For more information, call the ATT at 773-973-2828.

ATT Mechanchim Kollel

ATT is excited to announce a pilot program that started after Pesach. Over the last two summers, ATT ran a very successful summer Kollel with Rabbeim from the day school community. In an attempt to build from that program and its success, the ATT partnered with Rabbi Steinmetz, Rav of Kehillas Meor Yisrael in West Rogers Park, to create an afternoon Mechanchim (Educators) Kollel. There are 10 Rabbeim learning each weekday afternoon, Monday – Thursday, 4:00-6:00pm.

In addition several times a month, the Rabbeim attend required professional development (PD) sessions providing them with skills and information enabling them to grow in their profession. ATT Superintendent, Rabbi Avrohom S. Moller, is overseeing the PD courses offered.

ATT looks forward to introducing more programs like these to positively impact the educators of our community.

REACH Hosts Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) Tier 2

REACH hosts over 40 educators, therapists, and administrators gathered for a 3-day intensive Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) Tier 2 training hosted by REACH. Facilitated by Master Trainer Jordan Spikes of Think: Kids, this advanced concepts training course aims to further develop skills at all phases of the Collaborative Problem Solving® approach. It, additionally, enhances implementation in the real world.

Participants deepen their skills by learning strategies for using the approach in the most challenging situations using real-life examples from their experiences. Attendees, from across the spectrum of the Chicago Jewish community, engaged in meaningful learning and practice together.

2023 ATT Awards Presentation and Annual Meeting

The ATT thanks the community for its enthusiastic support of its 2023 Awards Presentation and Annual Meeting, An Evening with the Stars, held May 17th. Close to 300 people gathered together to honor ATT students as they received various awards and scholarships. Following the presentations the celebration continued with more photo ops of the awardees and delicious refreshments.

Big Breakthrough for ATT Schools and Title I Funding!

Due to the efforts of the ATT, and specifically those of Mrs. Chani Friedman in representing the Chicago Orthodox Community’s Day Schools, ATT is happy to announce that students who live in the Peterson Park area are now eligible to receive Title I services in their school!

What does this mean? Students who live in Peterson Park (Solomon School District) now generate Title I funds and are eligible to receive resource help across our schools.

Increase in Title I Funding — CPS (Chicago Public Schools) designates federal funds for use by private schools within public school districts. There are different types of federal funds, each with specific rules regarding the generation of funding for a private school. That means every student can potentially generate money for his/her school to use in arranging support services for students. Title I funding is specifically designated for students who need academic help in school. Previously, students in Peterson Park were not counted as students who generate Title I funds. Now, however, due to ATT’s persistent efforts and advocacy, over 500 additional elementary school students in our Jewish day schools are now eligible to be counted towards receiving these CPS funds. That means potentially hundreds of thousands of additional dollars becoming available to use by our schools!

Increased Eligibility — ATT has advocated on behalf of our students that everyone, regardless of where they live, should be eligible to receive resource help if they need it. Today, we are one step closer. Due to this breakthrough, hundreds of students who may have been struggling in school and yet were not able to receive services due to the fact they live in Peterson Park have now become eligible for services such as one-on-one Instruction, academic coaching, school counseling and more.

How did this happen? — Mrs. Chani Friedman, ATT’s Government Funding Liaison, is an expert on CPS rules and federal regulations. Mrs. Friedman realized that although non-attending private school students living in Peterson Park (Solomon School District) do not affect the overall poverty level which decides a public school district’s eligibility to receive Title 1 funding, these students can still tip the scales due to details in the mathematical poverty index formula. While others may have admitted defeat years ago, Mrs. Friedman continued to diligently provide Peterson Park student data to CPS in hopes of one day tipping the scale. That day finally happened last week as the numbers finally added up! This was a breakthrough for our students and schools and showed the power of unified advocacy on behalf of the community. Through Mrs. Friedman’s efforts in pooling the data of students across the Chicago Orthodox Jewish Day School system, ATT was finally able to tip the scale and achieve eligibility for students living in Peterson Park. The other Chicago school districts where ATT students live already have been recognized as Title I attendance areas due to ATT advocacy many years ago. This now completes the picture and will allow for added services for more students.

ATT has always been focused on maximizing the funds and services available for all of our schools and students! We thank Mrs. Friedman for her steadfast efforts for our day school community.